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6 Ways to Grow Your Self-Confidence

 

What I’ve seen lately is that most entrepreneurs and business people were born with great genes that allow them to perform at the levels that they do — that confidence is a natural born skill and if you don’t have the right set of chromosomes, well sorry.. you’re shit out of luck.

I read these things and think how foolish they truly are. The names that you know today as moguls within their respective industry were undoubtedly born with talent and natural ability, but had to refine and focus on personal growth to really capture who they were as an individual. You think the Rock came out of the womb looking like a chiseled Greek warrior? No. You think Elon Musk successfully started every venture he pursued? No, he almost went bankrupt. You think Albert Einstein naturally just rolled into the theory of relativity? No, he spent years and years dedicating his life to his craft and finding new answers to growing problems.

That’s what I want to focus on this week. Self-confidence is not just a born with talent, but something you can improve week in and week out.

Here are my top tips for improving your personal self confidence:

  • Think of the most confident person you know. Could be a person that you’re close to, could be celebrity you may admire, or even could be a fictional character. Take a moment for yourself and think of someone that exudes confidence in their every action or seemingly does. Think about what they do that is impressive to you, is it their vocal tonality? Their stance? The way their words flow together? Just think about what exactly they do that gives them an aura of confidence. From here, what I want you to do is go into a place you frequent, could be a coffee shop, a library, or anywhere with people in public. I want you to think about that confident individual and test out one or two of the aspects I mentioned above. Emulate their confidence in place of yourself.

 

  • Fear can cripple you, so ask yourself “what’s really the worst that could happen?” Someone may snicker when you puff out your chest and deepen your voice by three octaves, but ultimately nothing bad will come from it. Even if you may think so.

 

  • Confident individuals stand CONFIDENTLY. Take your hands out of your pockets when you speak and strike a superman pose or speak with open palms. Many times, people view confidence as your ability to be eloquent in your speech or the way in which you present yourself. Do not hunch your shoulders over – push them back, look at a person when you are directly addressing them, and finally speak a level louder than you think is loud. Don’t yell, but pronunciate your every word with clarity.

 

  • Your past isn’t indicative of your future. Regardless of your past, you have the opportunity and ability to control your life’s destiny and purpose. Think long and hard about what you want your life to look like and then execute on actions that bring you to that point. Execute. Evaluate. Re-execute. Re-evaluate. Over and over.

 

  • The negative voices in your head need to be let go. We are far too often swarmed with inner negativity. Our minds associate what if questions to every scenario we get in and usually take a pessimistic view. Shift your mindset from what if to why not. Be conscious of the negativity and try your best to erase it with positivity and an open mindset for growth.

 

  • The experts in their respective fields are experts because they know the industry they are in back and forth. They’ve studied everything applicable and continue to research to improve. They ask others questions and take on feedback openly from others. The best in the world are overprepared and have studied endlessly to be where they are at. You cannot fear what you already know.

 

You are in the driver seat of your own life. It’s time for you to take what you want.

Let me know what you think in the comments below and share this to those who may need to read it.

Wishing you all the very best and as always,

 

“There is no such things as strangers, just friends we’ve yet to meet.”

Brant

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3 Aspects of Life That Have Changed Since Training My Brain

I am in a constant state of reinventing myself and wanting to become a better version of what I envision my future self may be. When studying memory and the ways in which you can better your memory, I’ve found fads that seemingly take too much time or inadvertently distract me from the goings on in my life. My desire to strengthen my mental aptitude stemmed from the understanding that mentally you can conquer anything you set your mind to. Although you may have physical impairments or deficiencies, your mind can still be taught to grow and strengthen itself.

With this in mind, I sought to find a way to improve both my cognitive thinking and my overall memory. I wanted to find something that was both simplistic in nature and not too time demanding.

Enter the Pythagoras Memory Technique.

This technique is most famously associated with Pythagoras; the creator of my favorite high school math formula, the Pythagorean Theorem. Outside of his vast geometric knowledge and study, he prided himself on the preservation of thought in what is now called memory. His study of memory took years and years of trials and tribulations and testing and re-testing, but luckily for you and me, I have the opportunity to put a life’s worth of work into a compact format.

Now into the good stuff..

The original application Pythagoras adopted was through a series of memory recollection immediately upon awakening. He sought to remember everything he did in the day before in a chronological order attempting to not miss anything. He quickly realized how much he forgot throughout his day and thus did this daily in attempts to strengthen his memory.

Enough about him however, let’s talk about me. I quickly realized that although I am a morning person, my mornings are rushed. I am either in a haze from my alarm going off or rushing to get out of bed to begin my day. So the idea of recollection in a hurry didn’t seem appealing to me. Rather, I adopted this process as I was falling asleep and/or preparing for bed.

My first three to five days that I began this process, I quickly realized I could barely even remember what I had eaten throughout the day much less conversations I held with others. I thought I was doomed with the little progress I had seen, but it was as if something clicked after my first week.

I quickly realized that I was looking forward to recapping my day as I prepped for bed and was becoming better and better at remembering many little aspects of my days. I noticed outside of the excitement that I had to recall my day, three really important things happened additionally.

  1. Deep Sleep. I kid you not it was like brain exhaustion that knocked me out within minutes and kept me asleep through the night.
  2. I noticed my short-term memory was vastly improved. My recollection of names of those who I had just met or retention of quick information was much faster in comparison to times past.
  3. I became aptly aware of my immediate surroundings and was more immersed in experiencing my own life than ever before. I noticed I began to look for ways in which to describe situations and picking up on subtleties that I could better recollect.

 

This has been one experiment that I’ve taken much pride in and I want you to share the same feelings I have when accomplishing something so small, but so important. Try this out and give it some time for success. Let me know how it goes and how your life improves!

 

Wishing you a wonderful day and as always

“There is no such things as strangers, just friends we’ve yet to meet.”

Brant