I’ll be the first to admit that I’m pale. I sunburn quickly and somehow just get a shade of red darker. It was always a point of insecurity when I was younger, not in a way that made me unhappy, but in a way of me just wanting to fit in. I saw friends going to tanning beds or use self-tanner lotions or even get spray tans, but it was something I could never bring myself to spend money on. With this in mind, pale people have a limited closet that they can choose from; too light of a color and you blend in with the walls, too dark and you get asked if you’re feeling ill. It’s an odd predicament, but it helped me learn that yellow just wasn’t my color.
No matter what shade I tried on, whether it be the lightest light or a canary yellow, I looked like I belonged in a fruity tropical drink. Not a good look to say the least. However, it taught me something.. I don’t look good in yellow and that’s okay, I don’t need to. Others may dazzle in the color and some may just look eh in it, but for me, I knew it wasn’t something I was meant to wear.
This leads me to my point. Far too often I see friends and individuals try to compartmentalize themselves into thinking they look good in yellow. They’re quick to copy the trends of their favorite celebrities or mold into the exact profession their parents or friends tell them they’d be good at, but then look in the mirror and don’t like what they see. Quite simply, they’re seeing their yellow.
Ultimately, you have to play to your strengths. If you know you aren’t a good writer or speaker or artist, that’s actually okay. It’s great to acknowledge that you have weaknesses or areas you need to improve upon. You have the ability to learn these skills over time, but put bluntly you will never have the ability that a natural may have, or at least not for a while. This is the interesting part, however. You have an innate ability and strength that you may not even realize that you possess. Something that others compliment you on or something that people may introduce you with like “Hey, this is my friend Brant! He’s an amazing singer!”. It’s something small like this that you may overlook, but an interesting strength you may have! (disclaimer, I don’t have an amazing voice… sadly)
You have to be willing to bet on your strengths and willing to go all in on what you know or what others know you’re good at. I’ve learned in my short time of being an alumnus that it’s often difficult to chase your strengths or passions as it may not be as lucrative as the big fancy paychecks from companies, but I also know that it is extremely satisfying to bet on your strengths and continue refining your amazing individuality. My message to you is simple: be the best you that you can be by going all in on what makes you, you. Play to your strengths forever.
As always, really appreciate you coming and reading this and if you have anything you’d love for me to write about, let me know in the comments below!
“There are no such things as strangers, just friends we’ve yet to meet.”