The transition from having someone always around into solidarity is a shift towards adult life that is a somewhat undiscussed and unwritten topic. Parents or friends just say “oh it’s a part of life” or “you’ll get used to it in time”, but it’s an odd change regardless. Going from having roommates or having adults around to living alone is not an easy task.
When I first trekked down to Miami, I was filled with pure excitement and a readiness to start my summer internship. But as my parents and my brother left, I sat in silence for the first time in a very long time. No one around, no one bugging me to clean dishes or make my bed, no one to say what I could or couldn’t do, but most importantly, no one to talk to. It was an experience unlike any that I had faced before and can say it was the first time when I truly felt alone. I slept a total of 45 minutes the first night in anticipation of the coming day and realized that experience wasn’t going to be shared with anyone unless I was to call them or hop on my phone and update my social media.
Although it was a culmination of excitement, nervousness, and maybe even a slight amount of fear, for the first time, I really thought about all that was going through my head. I had nothing to do but think. Quite simply, it exposed me to thinking on a deeper level about all areas of my life. When you self-analyze without any interruption or advice from others, you realize that big problems become small and good things become even more cherished. It prioritizes the important things in life and lets you focus on what means most to you.
Being introspective is not a selfish act, but rather one I encourage. Being able to find what makes you most happy is something you deserve, not something to be chasing in your own mind. This is a little long winded, but I want to stress the importance of investing in yourself and giving yourself a break from daily activity and the constant commotion of life. Be by yourself for 15 minutes, put your technology away, and just live in the moment. Think about all you want, all things positive and negative, and think about what you can do to change your life and those you surround yourself with.
Be great, you’re nothing short of it.
What I’m Listening to: (Song of the Week)
“There is no such things as strangers, just friends we’ve yet to meet.”
Brant A. Wickersham