Month: July 2014

Why I Dislike The Bachelor & The Bachelorette

Your first thought is probably why in the world is Brant writing about The Bachelor/Bachelorette? To answer that question, the primary and basically sole reason as to why I watch it is because my girlfriend enjoys it. So put your quandaries aside because I promise you it would not be a show I would watch on my own. After watching the season finale last night and basically the whole season seeing all of the guys cycled through got me to thinking and wondering about quite a few things.


The 5 things I hate:

1. The bachelor/bachelorette is actually dating 25 people simultaneously… Seriously?

2. Somehow every contestant is incredibly good looking

3. Around the world exotic dates are common practice

4. A proposal in two months or else the whole series is deemed unsuccesful

5. The Fantasy Suite (LOL)


1. Now I know this is a reality TV show and it’s all about viewership and ratings so the drama is a necessary factor and the discernible craziness has to be apparent. The area that I thoroughly do enjoy is how many dates the eligible bachelor or bachelorette go on. My mom always told me to just take people on dates, or what we would call in todays terminology “hanging out”. Just hanging out with a person and getting to know them on a level above texting or snapchatting is something that humans crave and need. When you connect with someone through a random interaction, it makes that moment memorable, so I’m glad that the show provides so many opportunities to go on “dates”. But here is where one of my first dislikes stems from. This person is literally dating 25 people AT THE SAME TIME. If one of your friends did this or a person you knew was doing this, they would basically be considered a prostitute or other more negative terms. Seriously, imagine if you were dating 25 people at the same time… You know how hard it would be to keep up with all those texts!


2. Every man and woman on this show is somehow extremely good looking. Although the casting crew selects from a wide variety of contestants and pulls from many different job titles to make it seem as if it is random, these contestants are the Fabio’s and Kate Upton’s of their fields. Part time accountant full-time model. Seriously. It also doesn’t help that even the guys are caked up with makeup to appear even better than before. As I said before, I know it’s a TV show that cares about ratings, but for it being a “reality” show, it’s hard for me to think that all men and women look like this. Please discontinue this portrayal of men and women that are always perfectly tanned and exquisitely groomed (this is not reality).


3. I love dates, I love going out, dressing up, and enjoying the company of loved ones. I think it is awesome how the people on this show get to travel around the world getting to go on dates that are unique in ways that make those watching jealous. But back to reality, these trips are thousands and thousands of dollars for the transportation alone, keep in mind that this doesn’t even include the excursions or food or housing costs. These weekly dates are once in a lifetime opportunities that are made seem like you and your significant other can do regularly. I wish. This is another fantasy put into our minds that convinces us that we should be doing this to have a healthy relationship or a lifelong love. Although I do think traveling is incredible and always an adventure, I don’t think it’s feasible to do weekly. You can’t take off from work or school for that long, you can’t continually spend without working, and you really can’t keep up that blistering pace. Living out of a suitcase for months at a time is tough (take it from me).


4. As the season concluded last night and Josh and Andi were swooning over one another in pure love, I noticed one funny thing. The host always concludes by asking if they love one another and plan to still get married. The problem I have with what he said is how he expects their love and all of the other past seasons to follow a specific format. Love requires a lot of patience and a lot of time in my opinion and to be wed to someone is a lifelong commitment. Now it may be the kind of person I am, but I believe in fostering love for a long time before I get married. Understand the ins and outs of a person fully and know that I truly love that person. Two short months just seems so brief and so quick. It just makes it seemed pushed quicker than what the norm may be. Now if that love is real and deserving of being wed within two months then by all means, do it. But don’t rush into marriage unless you really love that person.


5. This quickly translates to “how good are you in bed?”… The fantasy suite basically involves them doing the dirty without it being said. Weird.


I dislike a lot about this show, but at the end of the day it is just a show. One thing I can say that is positive about it is that never once while watching it did I see them sitting on their phones. My advice, put your phone down and enjoy the company of others. I promise you, missing an hours worth of material on your Facebook timeline or Instagram feed will not affect you. Missing a life long friendship because you were stuck on your phone really will.

ICYMI: (Video of the Week)
What I’m Listening to: (Song of the Week)

Thanks for the read hope you enjoyed!


“There is no such things as strangers, just friends we’ve yet to meet.”

Brant A. Wickersham


Why I Hate Being On Top

Isn’t it funny how your brain has already perceived a sexual connotation even before you read into this blog? Well to your disappointment, this article is not on sex or anything of that matter. I was raised always being told that someone was better than me, someone somewhere was working harder, running faster, or lifting more than what I could. This was a testament to always working, busting my ass in everything I did to prove my worth. Constantly challenging myself and going above my limits to be better than those who were said to be in front of me. You push and push and push {had to incorporate one sex joke} and always want more, but what happens when you’re at the top?

Knowing that your hard work paid off and people now consider you the top of your field is an incredible feeling. Surpassing expectations allows you to showcase all that you did in your pursuit to be the best. The reason as to why I hate being on top is simple, when you’re the best you forget your roots. You forget the hard work that was required of you when you were at the bottom. You become lackadaisical and don’t push yourself as much. Your mindset changes from a worker to a boss in essence, looking over those below you and not looking up to achieve more.

The difference between the good and the great is that when those great get on top, they stay on top. They are hungry for more challenging themselves day in and day out competing against themselves. The only reason as to why I wrote this is because I want to stress the importance of not becoming complacent. Always strive for more and always think there is someone ahead of you. Change your mindset and change your life.

What I’m Listening to: (Song of the Week)
In Case You Missed It [ICYMI]: (Video of the Week)


“There is no such things as strangers, just friends we’ve yet to meet.”

Brant A. Wickersham

Stop Saying Sorry… Seriously

Everything you say in this day in age is scrutinized and analyzed endlessly. It seems the more popular you become or more famous you may be, the more attention that is brought to you. You’re required to keep your guard up in fear of being called a racist, a homophobe, a GDI, or whatever it may be that applies to the specific situation. I understand this defensive strategy because no one wants tohave that weight on their shoulders, the pressure of being named something they really are not. This cautious approach to everything said though is taxing on an individual. It makes people more susceptible to being sorrowful and quicker to apologize.

Now don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with apologizing when you make a mistake, but what I have a problem with is when you say sorry just to say it. It’s important to only say sorry when you really actually mean it. If you overuse it, your apologies become irrelevant kind of like “The Boy Who Cried Wolf”. Don’t apologize for actions that you could not have personally prevented, because if you do that, then you’re apologizing on behalf of another individual. That’s all I’ve got for you guys this week, sorry 😉
You're right.. Sorry about that

“There is no such things as strangers, just friends we’ve yet to meet.”

Brant A. Wickersham